Any doubt either of us had about taking the step melted away after that first appointment; if having a future for our relationship was that important to us, our therapist emphasized over and over again, why wouldn't we do everything we could to make that happen? They come when they know a change is about to happen so they have a safe environment to discuss their fears, excitement, the logistics, judgments and whatever else they anticipate could emerge with the adjustment. What should I do? It gives you an opportunity to talk with them and see if they specialize in your presenting issue. This sentiment is sometimes echoed by my friends when I tell them that Kurt and I are in couple's therapy.
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When Is It Too Early to Be in Couples Counseling?
And, to be fair, my ex-husband and I had taken things oh oh oh so slowly and that relationship had ended up pretty badly anyway, so I was all about trying something different. I still love him though and miss just being us instead of these stupid arguments. A professional therapist should let you know if therapy is not helping, whether to consider separation or divorce, whether you are adequately motivated to reconcile, or if you have individual problems to work on first. We had to learn to talk to each other once again and remember that we were friends before we ever got together. When you feel more negative than positive about the person